It’s the Holiday Season and I’m in Salt Lake City, Utah, where it is snowing and very cold; so, in order to help warm me up and celebrate the Holiday Season, I’ve been checking out lingerie and I’ve found many ways that you can take advantage of lingerie to excite your sex and dating life. I’ve purchased various lingerie and outfits over the years and I have found girls love to role-play and get into lingerie and outfits. Even girls that you may have been dating for a short period of time seem to love lingerie.

So here are a few lingerie ideas that I’ve found to be great …

First of all, my favorite website for lingerie, which includes one of the largest varieties and collections (after searching the entire internet for the best lingerie website) is Rupaz’s website: (this is actually a site that was created by Real Social Dynamics Bootcamp Alumni that loved how lingerie helped them enhance their dating lives).

You are already on the site but here’s the home page to Rupaz.

The founders come to RSD World Summit every year and share with me their stories about picking up girls, crazy parties, and dressing girls up in sexy outfits. I got so excited about what these guys were doing that I joined Rupaz’s Board of Advisors when I flew to Canada to check out their corporate Headquarters office on a day off from doing the RSD Free Tour workshops and RSD Hot Seat seminars. They have a huge warehouse full of every possible kind of lingerie imaginable.

They have everything from sexy lingerie to naughty costumes on the Rupaz website. Every time I’ve gone lingerie shopping, the girls show their appreciation and love the occasion of the unique thought of it. Also, they have some pretty awesome fashion show invites. I highly recommend you check them out because you see lots of hot models and meet lots of interesting girls. Fashion shows in general are great locations to go to meet lots of beautiful girls so I love frequenting them.

My VIP Host, Kelsey Kolberg, invited me to the Victoria’s Secret shows, which are awesome and I can send you invites if you want to check them out. Oftentimes, girls tell me how much they would love to check out the Victoria’s Secret fashion shows. I’ve always found it interesting how much girls love observing other beautiful girls flaunting their sexuality even when they are not lesbians or bisexual. I think it is because it is a creative outlet where girls get ideas of how to increase their own sexuality.

Secondly, if you have a La Perla shop nearby, go shopping there in person with a girl and they will try on the lingerie and show it to you right on the spot. This is very expensive and high-end lingerie, but you don’t have to buy it. Just getting the girl trying on outfits is fun and gets the girl thinking about sex fantasy. The girl will get to feel sexy around you and I often have done this on dates before dinnertime so that you set the mood early on.

Third, I’ve found that you can also take the above lingerie shopping idea into the realm of free. If you go to Victoria’s Secret website, you can enter your email address and get a free gift certificate for free lingerie / underwear once per every month. All you have to do is bring the certificate with you to a store and go shop for lingerie for free with the girl of your choice. No purchase necessary and you get free lingerie and a fun reason why you need to go to a sexy lingerie store with a girl.

One thing that I will focus on is that you should pick out lingerie for her that you think is sexy. The reason why is because if you pick out lingerie for the girl and she comes back home with you to try it on and it doesn’t turn you on, then that can be very bad. I remember several years ago, I thought it would be funny to get a girl to buy a sexy pirate outfit. However, I thought it was so funny that I couldn’t stop laughing when we were in my bedroom and, thus, we didn’t hookup and the pirate outfit didn’t work.

Another time, I tried to get a girl to satisfy my curiosity by getting her to wear a stringy goth-like lingerie. However, that also failed as I was totally not turned on by it and when she came into the bedroom wearing it, I just said, “Wow. Cool.” She replied, “That’s it.” It was the last time that we hooked up because she had a fantasy in her head that she was trying to fulfill and my lack of excitement and enthusiasm killed the mood in the long run.

Thus, you must get something that will excite you so that when the girl shows up wearing it to knock your socks off, you will be, “Ohhhhhhhhhhhhh Yeahhhhhhhhhhh!”

My preference lies in the classic and classy lingerie outfits. However, if you have that fantasy for banging a girl in school girl uniform or naughty nurse outfit, then go out and fulfill it. Girls love to role-play and they love to utilize costumes. That’s why almost every girl’s Halloween costume is the “Slutty XYZ”.

I love girls dressed in these outfits as it gets my mind wandering and that is also why my favorite party ever is the annual party at the Playboy Mansion for Halloween, where every girl falls into this category of dress (at least until the night goes on, where girls start getting riskier and begin to take off their outfits in exchange for body paint or just to go naked and wrestle in the grotto).

(You can check out Papa’s Playboy Mansion Photo Album) and while you are there check out RSD Nation.

I’ve hosted several parties at the Playboy Mansion and I’ve learned that creating the right ambiance is the key to a successful party. However, the biggest key to creating a successful ambiance is having more girls than guys and the girls have got to have a sexual vibe. Lingerie and outfits helps out with this big time. This is why so many nightclub owners will hire gogo dancers to go on platforms and pump their booties in the air all night long.

For girls you haven’t dated that long, or even on a Day 2, you can still go lingerie shopping, but you shouldn’t make it as if you expect them to have sex with you because you are going lingerie shopping with her. Even though what usually happens is that you hookup wearing the lingerie you went shopping for with her. Most shopping malls have decent lingerie stores, but if you are not interesting in leaving your house, you can still do this online at sites like the Rupaz website.

The advantage of online shopping with the girl is that you can just do it at home in your bedroom with the girl, and you don’t have to actually go to a shopping mall. Thus, you are already in a location where you can be free to hookup since you are already in the mood after looking at tons of hot girls in lingerie and fantasizing with your girl(s) about what you want to do.

If you are going lingerie shopping with a girl that you have been having sex with for a longer period of time, then you can go all-out and reveal your deepest fantasies and be completely open. This can really help enhance your levels of intimacy. I’ve had girls tell me over dinner how much they love to just go lingerie shopping for fun outfits, buy a porno, and just re-enact what they see on video. Also, many lingerie shops sell accessories to enhance your sex life (like furry handcuffs, oils, and games/toys).

Just make sure that if you are using sex toys, you do not get anything too kinky, like a Voodoo Dildo…

However, if enhancing your sex life with innovations is the key, then check out my favorite books on the subject of sex, which is the Cosmo Kama Sutra Book:

My girlfriend and I have tried out several of the creative innovations from the book and I’m sure that you will find it satisfying as well. Everything from creative positions of sex in the water, on the bed, or elsewhere are discussed. If you are in a long-term relationship, this can help spice up your sex life. And if you are hooking up with a girl for the first time, the ability to have hot sex is a definite plus if you want to see that girl again after your experience in the bedroom.

I know some guys that will be excited to pull a girl home and have sex with her, but then they do not get a call back when they try to call the girl because the girl thought that they were so horrible in the bedroom. So having this knowledge of how to enhance your sex life will definitely help with this.

So if you want something to spice up the Holidays, or anytime of the year, try out new lingerie, positions, outfits, and share the results (and maybe a few pics). I’ve love to hear your field reports involving girls in lingerie (and other innovative naughty stories) and see if you guys have any other interesting ideas to share about the subject as well.